Patterning Misconceptions
Well, so many women, no matter how beautiful, are suffering from a disease
far worse than polio. It's the disease of the expected?the hum-drum?the
"used to that already". And you, my friend with the patterns and the understanding of women they give, are the cure for that and perhaps the only cure she will ever find.
Understanding #3: Gifts, NOT Apologies! Another incorrect way to view patterns that you are now correcting is that somehow, they are apologies. Ways to make up for something that you are lacking. Ways of saying, "I'm sorry I don't have the looks or the body or the youth or the money that you want, but won't you please accept these pretty words, oh lovely Princess who I don't deserve to be with?"
Well, with THAT kind of attitude, which not only doesn't work but is also inaccurate, NO fancy words will work for you.
Listen?hear?get this understanding: the patterns are NOT ways of making up for what you lack. They are ways of offering women what it is THEY truly long for; the deep, powerful, emotional and imaginative experiences that every woman, deep in the core of her being, really looks and longs for.
It is not that you are making up for lack of looks, youth, money, status, etc. It is that these things may be what women are used to wanting, but are NOT what would really deeply fulfill them. The kinds of communications the patterns offer ARE. What other guys offer is counterfeit; "funny money" that women are used to accepting, because it's mostly the only thing in circulation. Speed Seduction gives you the genuine article; the pure gold "coin of the realm" instantly recognizable in women's souls and hearts as what they've always truly been looking for.
Understanding #4: Feelings Before Words! So many students have told me: "Ross, the patterns seem so foreign to me. They just don't seem like they are me."
What's usually going on for these beginners is that the patterns are descriptions of experiences they themselves have never imagined or had. So naturally, they just seem like they are reciting empty words with NO meaning. These poor guys are so focused on memorizing the words, they haven't put any focus into getting some of the feelings.
You see, if you have never had a "peak experience" and haven't even imagined having one, it is pretty hard to sound convincing or to be captivating talking about it. It's just empty words with nothing to back it up. Sort of like the Japanese singing duo from the 70's, "Pink Lady". These two lovely Japanese girls understood not ONE word of English. But they were a big hit on the talk show circuit, singing English songs which they memorized purely by sound, the joke being how they obviously did not understand one single syllable of what they were singing!
The solution here, if this is your problem, is to focus, in the beginning, NOT on memorization, but on imagining for yourself the experiences the patterns describe. Imagine for yourself what it would be like to feel an incredible connection, a peak experience, the excitement and body sensations of "parts" of the Blow Job pattern, etc. etc.