Patterning Misconceptions
An article by Ross Jeffries explaining the most important misconceptions
and problems people have with patterning. Ross Jeffries, ASF:
"The following understandings represent ways to clear up the most common misconceptions and problems that students I have talked with typically encounter.
Understanding #1: The Patterns Are Only Examples! As Major Mark and I have said over and over again in seminars, the patterns sure are wonderful. Whether it's the Blammo, the Blow Job, the tried and true "Discovery Channel" or any one of so many patterns now in the Speed Seduction Þ material, it is important to realize they are only examples. They are examples of the kinds of communication that open and stimulate a woman to give her the deep emotional and imaginative experiences that she longs for.
Can the patterns, used word for word as we teach them, work for you? Of course! That's what they are designed to do!
But it is equally important to use the patterns as a teaching tool for yourself. To give yourself opportunities to learn about the types of communications that really stimulate women and give them what they really long for.
Think of the patterns as training wheels; when you first learned to ride a bicycle more than likely you did it with FOUR wheels, and NOT two. Once you learned the basics of balance and forward momentum; once you got "the feel" of things, the training wheels were removed and perhaps after a few falls, off you went!
Same with the patterns you'll find in the courses, videos, workbooks and seminars. They are as much tools to train yourself as they are methods to open and stimulate women!
Therefore, as you grow in the use of the materials, you will begin to find you adapt bits and pieces of the patterns in different order and in different ways to fit the individual situation and unique women you are encountering! In fact, you may well begin to create your own! That is a sign you are really at a level of great mastery!
Understanding #2: Getting "Caught" Is Bullshit! One of the more common challenges new students bring up is the fear of "getting caught". Some students believe that using patterns is somehow like committing some kind of minor crime, like picking a girl's pocket or stealing her purse.
Remember, you can only fear "getting caught" if you view what you are doing as something wrongful or damaging.
What you need to understand is this: using patterns is not taking something away from her. You aren't stealing her wristwatch; you are giving her something wonderful. A chance to experience feelings and emotions and states of mind/body that very, VERY few people can ever give.
You need to believe that what you are offering to give has value, even if at first you aren't the smoothest in the delivery of it.
Look at it like this; if she had polio and YOU had the vaccine, would you feel nervous, guilty or shameful about telling her, "Hey?c'mere?.you really need what I have?".
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