Passion to Passion Pattern
This pattern will actually be constructed by her. All you have to do is to carry
her description of a passion for something over to a passion for someone
(and not forgetting to self-point while doing that:) and ask her, how would that feel.
By Kevin Kupal, mindlist:
"It works well because you'll be seducing her from her own side of the fence, using feelings that she already feels about something she's "passionate" about, as opposed to trying to install feelings from the outside.
I have field tested this and have come to one general conclusion: it works only in women who have a "passion" for something... be it mountainclimbing, biking, helping people etc. It fails with "boring" women... the types who say "I only stay at home and watch TV".
Here are the steps.
1. Find out if she has any activity she feels "passionate" about. Most likely, these may be her work, her hobby, extra-curricular activities (if still in school)... anything she would do even if she did it for free.
2. Ask her... what's important to you in doing (activity)? What do you feel when you go (activity)? C'mon, tell me what it feels like when you're there, actually doing (activity). At this point, I am actually putting her in an internal rep of actually doing that activity, and associating her into the states the she feels while doing the activity. I'm eliciting feelings/criteria. You're basically looking for nominalized "feelings" such as "satisfaction" , fulfillment, love, challenge, "rush" etc.
3.Then, feedback these nominalized "feelings" and link these to you. I was just wondering...well...a funny thought occurred to me...what would it be like when you just find yourself feeling all those feelings you have for (activity) for another person (point to self)? Can you imagine what's it like if those feelings you have for (activity), you also feel for, let's say, your boyfriend (point to self) ?
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